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Aging parents, and you're the one holding it together
Noticing your parents need more support — and then trying to coordinate that support from another city, or even another time zone — is one of the quietest kinds of hard. Add the first signs of memory changes, and it's not always clear what's aging normally and what needs attention.
What I do
I become the person on the ground: visiting, observing, asking the questions a family member can't always ask objectively, and flagging changes early. If memory concerns are part of the picture, I help you understand what you're seeing and what steps make sense next — without jumping straight to the most frightening conclusion.
You don't have to choose between your life and theirs.